NEW: Insight for the Day 01:01:18: Control Freak

Discussion Points:

  1. Do you struggle taking instructions from others?
  2. Do you struggle in delegating tasks?
  3. Do you enjoy taking total control over events?

Case 01:01:2018

A weakness that is inherent in man is his desire to control events and take matters into his own hands. Trying to exert control over the events of others without sufficient information or based on the wrong assumptions can sometimes lead to devastating consequences. It is dangerous to assume that you are helping an individual achieve an objective without clarifying and establishing an agreement on the proposed methods and expected results. Your perspective can and will differ from others, hence the danger of inaccurate assumptions. In 2 Samuel v 8 – 12, we see an example of what happened to a group of men who thought they were doing David a favour:

They brought the head of Ish-Bosheth to David at Hebron and said to the king, “Here is the head of Ish-Bosheth son of Saul, your enemy, who tried to take your life. This day the LORD has avenged my lord the king against Saul and his offspring.” David answered Recab and his brother Baanah, the sons of Rimmon the Beerothite, “As surely as the LORD lives, who has delivered me out of all trouble, when a man told me, ‘Saul is dead,’ and thought he was bringing good news, I seized him and put him to death in Ziklag. That was the reward I gave him for his news! How much more-when wicked men have killed an innocent man in his own house and on his own bed-should I not now demand his blood from your hand and rid the earth of you!” So David gave an order to his men, and they killed them. They cut off their hands and feet and hung the bodies by the pool in Hebron. But they took the head of Ish-Bosheth and buried it in Abner’s tomb at Hebron.

Sometimes we take matters into our own hands with the belief that we are offering assistance, when in actual fact we are presenting ourselves as obstacles because we have not bothered to clarify and establish the requirement of individuals. I wonder how many people charged for aiding and abetting thought they were helping when in fact they were obstructing justice!

Points to Ponder:

  1. Only the truth sets you free?
  2. Humility involves submitting your strong will to the truth
  3. Patience involves suspending your actions until the truth reveals itself

©Insight for the Day 2018

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NEW: Insight for the Day 20:12:17: I Rest My Case

Discussion Points:

  1. Have you been involved in a heated argument?
  2. What was the outcome?
  3. How did you feel after the argument?

Case 20:12:2017

I heard the following advice given to a man involved in a quarrel: “when two people are quarrelling, you cannot tell which one of them is the madman”.

I often wonder why we get involved in arguments. Is it just to win and feel better, or is it just to prove a point? We need to ask ourselves what it is all about. Is it to glorify God or ourselves? In 2 Timothy 2 v 23 – 26, we are educated on the downfall of getting involved in quarrels:

Don’t have anything to do with foolish and stupid arguments, because you know they produce quarrels. And the Lord’s servant must not quarrel; instead he must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful. Those who oppose him he must be gentle instruct, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth, and that they will come to their senses and escape from the trap of the devil, who has taken them captive to do his will.

When we argue, we fall into the trap of the enemy and – like the advice points out – “who is the madman who has allowed the devil to take him captive?”

We need to get involved in discussions to produce a “win-win” situation where both parties win. This can only be achieved by the love of Christ being deposited in the lives of all parties.

Points to Ponder:

  1. The Bible instructs us; ‘Anger’ rests in the bosom of fools.
  2. Anger and Arguments in no way produce the righteousness of Christ
  3. Silence is always ‘golden’ at the right time 

©Insight for the Day 2017

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NEW: Insight for the Day 23:11:17: Home-Boy Advantage

Discussion Points:

  1. Do you feel unappreciated
  2. Do you appreciate people and what they have to offer
  3. Do you suffer from insecurities?

Case 23:11:2017

It is quite amazing how we often limit our scope of operations and activities to those we are familiar and comfortable with. The potential danger of limiting our scope comes from the fact that because of familiarity, appreciation sometime does not come from those around, you hence limiting your ability to express yourself. As a result, you may need to expand and explore your scope so you can fulfil God’s plan for your life. We can see the same concept in Luke 4 v 24:

And he said, “Verily I say unto you, No prophet is accepted in his own country”.

On the flip side of this coin, in my opinion, we also need to learn to appreciate those around us and not take them for granted. God has put them in our lives as a blessing. It is funny how we sometimes pray for blessings that are already with us but because of familiarity we are blinded to this notion. We need to take time to assess the gifts of those around us and limit adopting the ‘Expert Concept’ – i.e. an expert is someone who lives thousands of miles away, carries a brief-case and charges a lot of money for his gift.

Lord, teach us the art of balance where we benefit from expanding our scope to appreciate gifts from afar but also appreciating the gifts of those around us.

Points to Ponder:

  1. God loves us so much that he gave up his son to die on the Cross for the sins that we committed
  2. We are advised that the greatest commandment is to love
  3. In God we live, breathe and have our existence 

©Insight for the Day 2017

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NEW: Insight for the Day 22:11:17: Four Famous Words


Discussion Points:

  1. Have you fallen out with someone for telling the truth?
  2. What is your response to the third party when the truth comes to pass
  3. What is the response of the third party?

Case 22:11:2017

Scenario 1:

A knock came on the door and the salesman began to advertise his wares to the couple. The wife was hooked on the beauty of the product but the husband was more sceptical based on his past experience with door-to- door salesman. The husband explained to his wife that it was not a wise venture and she should not succumb to the flare and style of the salesman who was only interested in extracting every penny possible. The husband went to attend an appointment with the belief that his advice would be applied. On arriving home after the appointment, he found his wife in a bitter mood. She had rung the salesman and bought the products, only to find out later that they were fake and not the real McCoy. The husband was annoyed and mentioned the four famous words.

Scenario 2:

A wife offers her advice to her husband that he may be on the wrong path on a journey that was supposed to take an hour. He rebukes her for advising him and tells her that he knows what he is doing. Two hours later, he realises that he really doesn’t know the way and unbeknown to him, his wife had studied all the routes prior to the journey. He now seeks help from his wife who keeps quiet, and after a minute of trying to control her anger, she mentions the four famous words.

The four famous words are “I TOLD YOU SO”. If you attend any marriage seminar, they are bound to advise you on the negative effect of using these words. These words bubble in the stomach of everyone who has offered advice to someone, and the event then backfires on the individual. It is hard to control the urge to say these words, but the Bible gives us some advice which does not apply just to our enemies, in Proverbs 24 v 17 – 18:

Do not gloat when your enemy falls; when he stumbles, do not let your heart rejoice, or the Lord will see and disapprove and turn his wrath away from him.

 

Points to Ponder:

  1. We are advised in the Bible to listen more than we speak
  2. We are also advised to ponder like Mary and Jacob when they were confused over an issue
  3. Words can either build or destroy so construct carefully

©Insight for the Day 2017

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NEW: Insight for the Day 20:10:17: Spiritual KPI’s

Discussion Points:

  1. How is your walk with God?
  2. Is it a struggle?
  3. How do you know where you are in terms of spiritual maturity?

Case 20:10:2017

  1. Teaching others than just being taught
  2. Developing depth of understanding rather than struggling with the basics
  3. Self-evaluation rather than self-criticism
  4. Seeking unity rather than promoting disunity
  5. Desiring spiritual challenges rather than disunity
  6. Desiring spiritual challenges rather than desiring entertainment
  7. Careful study and observation rather than opinions and self hearted efforts
  8. Active faith rather than cautious apathy and doubt
  9. Confidence rather than fear
  10. Feelings and experiences evaluated in the light of God’s Word rather than experiences evaluated according to feelings.

Points to Ponder:

  1. Ask God daily for what you need to do for a closer walk
  2. Walking with the Holy Spirit eliminates all struggles
  3. The Holy Spirit reveals to us the areas where we need to improve

©Insight for the Day 2017

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NEW: Insight for the Day 13:10:17: Trust Factor

Discussion Points:

  1. What is your idea of trust?
  2. Would you consider yourself ta trustful person?
  3. Whom is your primary trust in?

Case 13:10:2017

I attended an accountability group meeting and the issue of trust was one of the discussion points. Two participants strongly pointed out that they lost confidence in sharing their issues because the last time they told senior members of their church, they were judged, condemned and their issues were related to the whole church. As a result they left the church, trying to find a church that would relate to them.

They expressed that they felt more confident with this new group because the leader took time to open up himself by expressing ‘truthfully’ what he has been through and the issues he faces daily. The revelation was so deep that when I consider what I have been through, it was minor compared to the leader. Please note I am not trying to belittle anyone’s experience but what this person had been through was deep and scary.

As men we all have issues, whether you are a Pope, Bishop, Pastor, General Overseer or even if you are so anointed with oil that the cup overflows and you fry an egg on it – WE ALL HAVE ISSUES! It is by God’s grace and the blood of Jesus that guarantees us the right standing.

As people we have to begin to trust ourselves and make ourselves accountable to survive the onslaught of the enemy. Remember no man is an island. The Bible confirms the issue of trust, accountability and the burdens we carry in Ephesians 6 v 1 – 5:

Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted. Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfil the law of Christ. If anyone thinks he is something when he is nothing, he deceives himself. Each one should test his own actions. Then he can take pride in himself, without comparing himself to somebody else, for each one should carry his own load.

Points to Ponder:

  1. Some may trust in horses, chariots but our primary trust should be in the Lord
  2. The grace to trust others come from God
  3. Trust involves faith and faith comes from hearing God through his Word

©Insight for the Day 2017

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NEW: Insight for the Day 06:10:17: I need you, you, you!

Discussion Points:

  1. Do you feel neglected?
  2. Do you a support network in terms of family and friends?
  3. Who do you turn to in times of need?

Case 06:10:2017

Movie goers amongst you may remember the rendition of the song by Wilson Pickett in the Blues Brothers movie, ‘I need you, you, you. I need you, you, you’. During the Second World War, the famous poster was released of Uncle Sam with the pointed finger, saying, ‘Your country needs you’.

No man is an island, especially when undergoing the Christian walk. Men generally think they can handle anything that comes their way, and we are reluctant to share our thoughts or ‘issues’ with one another. In my opinion, this is a great mistake because after a while the pressure of carrying all the burdens by yourself will get to you and spill out to other areas of your life.

Men need to encourage one another, and the Bible supports this fact in Luke 22 v 31 – 32, where Jesus was advising Peter:

Simon, Simon, Satan has asked to sift you as wheat. But I have prayed for you, Simon that your faith may not fail. And when you have turned back, strengthened your brothers.

 Points to Ponder:
  1. We were not created by God in isolation
  2. God mandated that it is not good that man to be alone
  3. Relationships amongst us all brings balance and diversity to our lives

©Insight for the Day 2017

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